Remember the mournful cry of the old song , “All I want for Christmas is my two front teeth?”


If I were to ask you all you want for Christmas this year, I think I know what it would be. All I wanted for Christmas 1983 was my wife back, for life to be back to normal, or for things to be the way they were the last Christmas before she died.


Perhaps you can understand those feelings.

After losing someone we care about, it does NOT feel like “The most wonderful time of the year”. Oh, it’s more than the usual “bah humbug!” stuff.  This year Christmas is going to be different for you, yet the world doesn’t seem to notice or care. A myriad of Christmas images still flood your senses: chestnuts roasting on an open fire; sleigh bells in the snow; stockings on the mantle awaiting Santa’s visit. “’Tis the season to be jolly”, they say …  but you feel anything BUT jolly.


In fact, this year the Christmas bells may have a different ring for you. Circumstances have meant a significant change in your life. Perhaps someone you care about has died. There may be an empty chair at the Christmas table this year. But it will not compare to the empty feeling in your heart. Things like pulling out the old familiar decorations and tree ornaments will be a painful reminder of what you have lost. Perhaps you’re anticipating these holidays with some apprehension because of a significant loss.  Probably nothing will make these holidays perfect, but perhaps there are a few suggestions to make them more bearable:






And yet, even though this Christmas may not be so jolly, can you be thankful for SOMETHING?


Can you be thankful for the years you did have and the memories you still share?


Someone may be missing, but are there people who WILL be there this year for whom you can be thankful?  Don’t allow looking back at the past to spoil what you have in the present.


And what of the future? You may wonder if you will ever feel happy again, or if life will ever be the same, and probably very little I say will convince you today that you are going to be OK and that you will find a way through this.


But it is important that you hold on to that hope. You may not be able to see it right now, and maybe not even be sure you can believe it, but hold on to hope that there will be days that are brighter.


My biggest life lesson has been that even though some of its circumstances are difficult, tragic and even unfair, that life does go on. If you can hold on to that hope, next Christmas will look different to you.