Gifts for a Grieving Christmas
Why are the Holidays so difficult for Grieving People? There may be several reasons. Christmas is a time of celebration. These memories can be difficult as we remember better days and compare them to THIS Christmas. Holidays are usually a time to look to the future, but now future is difficult … unimaginable … and uncertainty always creates fear. So we are apprehensive about what we have to confront. We may even feel guilty about enjoying ourselves, as if this would be disrespectful to the memory of the person who has died. But we need to balance grieving what we have lost and appreciating what (and who) we still have.
- Recognize that this Christmas is different
- Decide what YOU want to do.
- Plan Ahead. Avoid “should’s and oughts.
- Re-examine your priorities.
- Make the Changes you think are best
- Take Responsibility for your own Happiness
- Act rather than react
- Stay in touch with your Feelings
- Be honest about your feelings.
- Don’t be afraid to Relive your Memories
- Acknowledge your loved one’s presence
- Create a Special Tribute
- Look after Yourself
- Be compassionate with yourself about not being perfect.
- Ask for and Accept Help
- Balance Solitude and Sociability
- Set Differences Aside
- Learn to Say “No”
- Don’t Abandon Healthy habits
- Take a Break from things
- Try to find Something Positive in your Life
- How can you turn your loss into something positive.
- Take Care of Children
- Create a Special Tribute to the Person
- Try to make Others happy
- Face the Future with Hope
- Remember, there will be OTHER Christmas’s.
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