I'll be HOME for Christmas

Gifts for a Grieving Christmas

Why are the Holidays so difficult for Grieving People? There may be several reasons. Christmas is a time of celebration. These memories can be difficult as we remember better days and compare them to THIS Christmas. Holidays are usually a time to look to the future, but now future is difficult … unimaginable … and uncertainty always creates fear. So we are apprehensive about what we have to confront. We may even feel guilty about enjoying ourselves, as if this would be disrespectful to the memory of the person who has died. But we need to balance grieving what we have lost and appreciating what (and who) we still have.

  1. Recognize that this Christmas is different
  2. Decide what YOU want to do.
  3. Plan Ahead. Avoid “should’s and oughts.
  4. Re-examine your priorities.
  5. Make the Changes you think are best
  6. Take Responsibility for your own Happiness
  7. Act rather than react
  8. Stay in touch with your Feelings
  9. Be honest about your feelings.
  10. Don’t be afraid to Relive your Memories
  11. Acknowledge your loved one’s presence
  12. Create a Special Tribute
  13. Look after Yourself
  14. Be compassionate with yourself about not being perfect.
  15. Ask for and Accept Help
  16. Balance Solitude and Sociability
  17. Set Differences Aside
  18. Learn to Say “No”
  19. Don’t Abandon Healthy habits
  20. Take a Break from things
  21. Try to find Something Positive in your Life
  22. How can you turn your loss into something positive.
  23. Take Care of Children
  24. Create a Special Tribute to the Person
  25. Try to make Others happy
  26. Face the Future with Hope
  27. Remember, there will be OTHER Christmas’s.