{"id":6408,"date":"2021-05-20T14:38:53","date_gmt":"2021-05-20T14:38:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/griefjourney.com\/?p=6408"},"modified":"2021-05-20T14:42:43","modified_gmt":"2021-05-20T14:42:43","slug":"dying-to-talk-about-something","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/griefjourney.com\/dying-to-talk-about-something\/","title":{"rendered":"Dying to Talk about Something"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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by<\/span> Dr. Bill Webster<\/span><\/b><\/p>

Let\u2019s admit it right from the beginning. Talking about death is never easy. Even imagining the possibility of our own death or that of our loved ones is a frightening experience. Who wants to think about the end of life? Who can contemplate a world where we don\u2019t exist, or where someone we have needed and depended upon is no longer present? Ours is indeed a death denying culture.<\/span><\/p>

And yet in this year since we first learned about COVID 19, we have been forced to confront the death of loved ones, and the real possibility of our own mortality. Never have we had to contend with such unprecedented threats to our health and wellbeing. Never has there been such a need to talk about death and dying<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>

Yet even with it staring us in the face, many still refuse to confront the reality, far less the possibility<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>

But whether we realize it or not, \u201cdeath\u201d and \u201cdying\u201d are two entirely different issues. <\/span>While there many wonderful specialists on the subject of \u201cdying\u201d, I have not met any who are \u201cexperts on death\u201d. I\u2019m not sure anyone is, (although some would undoubtedly disagree) because, after all, death itself will be the final test of anyone\u2019s beliefs about what happens after it occurs. <\/span><\/p>

So there remains the question <\/span>\u00a0\u201cWhy\u201d so many people seem reluctant to face, far less discuss death; the inevitable reality that one day our life here will be ended and that our \u201cdying\u201d will have resulted in our \u201cdeath\u201d.\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross makes this significant observation about death: <\/span><\/p>

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\u201c<\/span><\/i>In terms of the unconscious,\u00a0we cannot conceive\u00a0of our own\u00a0death, <\/span><\/i>to imagine an actual ending of our own life here on Earth. And if this life of ours has to end, the ending is always attributed to some malicious intervention from the outside, by someone or something else. <\/span><\/i>This\u00a0is\u00a0very important to understand. … If\u00a0I\u00a0have to\u00a0die, I\u00a0can\u00a0only conceive\u00a0of it as\u00a0being killed, a destructive catastrophic\u00a0death\u00a0that hits me from the \u201coutside\u201d when\u00a0I\u00a0am not prepared.<\/span><\/i>\u201d <\/span><\/i><\/p>

This insightful concept perhaps helps us understand \u201cWhy\u201d people <\/span>find it difficult to conceive a world or situation in which we no longer exist. Think about it; w<\/span>hen any loved one dies, we do not want to accept the \u201ctermination of their life\u201d, preferring to think of them in being in some \u201cbetter place\u201d where their existence, and therefore their connection to us, continues. Religious people call it \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cParadise\u201d, but even non-religious people still choose to think of their loved one in \u201ca better place\u201d.<\/span><\/p>

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